The Budget Fashionista

I hear you and agree with you!

My two cents? I think people should focus on what looks best on them AND what makes them feel good about themselves.  The young woman wearing the lower rise jeans with the muffin top doesn’t wear them cause they look good, but she wears them cause that is what her role models wear.

I am very concerned about the hyper-sexualization of young girls, particularly those 11 and under. I have a 10 year old niece, whom I am very close to, and it is quite difficult to find age appropriate clothes for her.

It’s really sad that so many girls feel that they need to show skin and “muffin top” to fit in and look beautiful. It’s even sadder that so many clothing stores cater to that and don’t provide enough alternatives for girls who want to dress more appropriately.

I suppose I’m conflicted, because, I think that there are size and age appropriate clothes.  However, at the same time,  I think that if something looks good on your body type and your skin tone and it fits your body well, if it makes you feel comfortably and you are happy wearing it, then I think that those “rules” don’t apply.

I suppose I lean more towards there being size, body type limits rather than age ones.  The reason being, is that I am 37 (going on 38) and there are styles of clothing that I can wear that look good on me, which others may deem “non-age appropriate” that is, if they actually knew my age, yet, because they do not, those same styles look very attractive and classy on me.  I do believe that there are some styles and fits of clothing that shouldn’t be worn by certain individuals due to their age, but that mostly has to do with 1. dressing children or pre-teens or teens too old - a child/pre-teen or teen should not dress to look 21 yrs of age, because that is the attention they will attract.  2. I think that some ages look ridiculous in some fashions, however, if it looks good on the individual - then forget the “rules”. 

My philosophy is: THE ONE “RULE” about what you wear which should be remembered is:  what you wear and how you carry yourself will determine how others treat you, period.  It is sad, but very true due to social stigma.  If you dress like an unsavory character, you’ll be treated as one.  If you dress like a crazy shopping cart pushing street person - you’ll be treated as one.  If you dress like a prostitute - trust me - you’ll be treated like one.  That is the one “rule” that is inflexible and it’s not even one people are aware that they are “enforcing” they just do it out of social training.  However, if you wish to dress like an insane clown and you’re willing to put up with the social stigma for doing so, then go for it, you’re free to express yourself.

I really believe that fashion “rules” are completely at the discretion of the person wearing the clothing (or the parent of the under age individual). 

Thankfully, I nor anyone else (except the under age), absolutely “has to” wear what “other people” deem appropriate for them.

Fortunately, we do not live in a Country where we are not subjegated to having to wear burkas or forms of ‘uniforms’  to satisfy the social majority, and as independent and intelligent women, we can decide for ourselves what we desire to wear.  Unfortunately, some people are just less talented than others at figuring out what ‘works’ for them and what ‘doesn’t work’ for them individually.

I believe that clothing is just as much an expression of individualism as make-up, personality, art and speech.

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I do not believe that people should wear whatever they want. And, there are many times when we here on this board, put something on and think “This looks great!”

Then we go out and don’t necessarily get the same response. Why, because things are a matter of perception. But, as I say if the majority agrees in perception then there is a point being made. And, it may be time for you to listen.

If this girl is a teen, she doesn’t see anything wrong. Why, because she probably has a group of friend that dress around her the same way. When your a teen it is not about what what works right with your body it s about what in. So you can’t expect too much with that. I believe it is up to the mom to let her know that it is not working in a non-discouraging way.

Women like to buy:

What gets attention

What will get me a guy

what will me look taller, skinner, prettier, all these objectives. When people buy clothes, or change a hair color, there is so much psychology involved.

We all have an objectives just like that young lady did. And, sometimes the objective can blind us from being truthful to ourselves about what works.  If people only new that what work the BEST with you will get you the best attention, and help you meet the true objective, which is love yourself enough to wear what is BEST. People get too caught up in the term “AGE APPROPRIATE”  enough of that “WHAT BRINGS OUT THE BEST IN YOU” not age appropriate, that term gets people defensive, then they rebel more and wear what is not best for them, for several diff. reasons, aside form a visual aspect.

Some people just don’t know what is right for them and you know what that is no different when a woman picks the wrong guy, Sometime our judgment is off, for so many reasons.

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I feel that as long as something is socially appropriate (as Kathryn said, no hyper-sexualization, please), it’s welcome on whomever it suits. If you can pull off the look—for real, not just think you do—then you should wear it!

There was a teacher I knew who said that she never tells anyone her true age. She said that if people knew her true age, they’d treat her like an old lady. Hairdressers would give her old lady haircuts and clothiers would direct her to old lady styles. This woman does not look like an old lady, and I was shocked to find out that she has adult grandchildren.

However, I think a big part of how great this teacher looked was that she wore very smart, classic clothes that never go out of style. I don’t think that women have to suddenly switch to completely classic pieces once they get older, but they should incorporate some classic pieces as they get older. That way, they look chic and smart, not dowdy or trying too hard.

And no matter what, the clothes have to fit and flatter the woman’s body.

Classic pieces with updated lines are a never-fail selection for a mature woman, but I do love it when an “older” woman wears more contemporary fashions. It’s such a surprise!

I agree with Amethyst about the media. And the mother in law in Forever 21, heels and velour tracksuits…priceless. LOL!!!!

Absolutely not.  For every age, body type, and so forth there is an appropriate style that is very aesthetically pleasing.  Of course, there will always be difficulties with certain factors, but I think there is enough ingenuity in the fashion world to make something suitable for most people.

I find it extremely unreasonable to stop or try to stop a person from wearing what their heart desire. Fashion is what you perceive it to be and not what people think should be. Its not the sole propriety of fashion designers to start a trend. So, never mind your age just wear what you want to.

It’s really sad that so many girls feel that they need to show skin and “muffin top” to fit in and look beautiful. It’s even sadder that so many clothing stores cater to that and don’t provide enough alternatives for girls who want to dress more appropriately.

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rochelle
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